Date A Girl Who Reads….(In Response to Charles Warnke’s You Should Date An Illiterate Girl.)

Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag.She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.
She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.
Buy her another cup of coffee.
Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.
It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.
She has to give it a shot somehow.
Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.
Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.
Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.
If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.
You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.
You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.
Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.
Or better yet, date a girl who writes.
~Rosemarie Urquico~

Obsession with Darcy

Whoa, Darcy!“—- this is what every dreamy girl is saying..( Moi included 😀 )  I was 18 when i fell in love with Mr. Darcy. It was in College– I never thought that it would change my opinion of men for the rest of life when I saw this book at our school library.Image

So this evening..It popped into my head to watch Pride and Prejudice

Image ( 2005 film version) and I sat there entirely fascinated, being just a bit in love (no! super madly in love ) with Mr. Darcy (to the point that yes, I did squealed like a loon again) and somehow his name and an idea popped into my head –why don’t I write about him?– and since I haven’t posted yet again, why not write about my obsession?. Which is now on repeat in my head. How my brain does these things, and I should imagine I will soon be one of those delusional individuals who imagine their life a part of romantic film, and books etc.


What other character in literature has left such an impression on so many generations of women? What other character has been honored with adaptations, Facebook groups, clothing lines? There is definitely something about Darcy… So yes when I performed this search, I found out that Darcy is a trending topic, everybody’s into him!. Strangely I found myself completely obsessively looking for  Mr Darcy related stuffs on Google and stumbled into a few incredible (and weird) stuffs, which are now popular–or perhaps better described as crazy mental that apparently afflicted millions of women around the world who have come down with a case of Darcy Fever.

Darcy has been portrayed on screen a countless times. First there was Andrew Osborn who appeared as Darcy in a television film in 1938 ( I didn’t really got to see the entire film, but only bits of it–man it’s old!). But the most recent interpretation which have really hit a nerve with female audiences– Matthew Macfadyen’s 2005 Darcy had bags more sex appeal than Laurence Olivier’s 1940 stiff-upper-lip version and the very acclaimed 1995 a dip in the pond wet look of Colin Firth (haha I think).


The smoldering hero of Pride and Prejudice 2005 movie adaptation Mr. Darcy (Matthew Macfadyen).


Pride and Prejudice was first published in 1813. Nearly 200 years later, the novel’s romantic lead, Mr. Darcy, still has a powerful effect on women. So what exactly is it about this old-fashioned, 200-year-old man that still sets our hearts a-flutter? Let me count the ways….

1. Darcy isn’t one to mince words or play games: He tells Elizabeth exactly what he feels about her. Because he loves her. Ardently.                                                                                                   Image

(Epic) In vain I have struggled. It will not do. My feelings will not be repressed. You must allow me to tell you how ardently I admire and love you. People don’t do anything ardently  enough anymore.

2. At first impression, he seems pompous, conceited and unfriendly.Image

But it is only the women in his life (Elizabeth Bennet and his sister Giorgiana) who are able to bring out his more soft and caring side.

3. When Elizabeth’s sister goes missing and because he so unquestionably loves her, even though she basically shot him down before, he fixed the problem by tracking down the lovers and bribing Wickham into marrying the second youngest Bennett daughter. Erasing the indiscretion and sealing her future as the wife of an ass.

4.Even though there were things about Elizabeth that were not entirely suited to a man of Darcy’s position and she spoke her mind in a way that could have brought criticism and did from the social elite surrounding him.


To his credit, even before he fell in love with her, he spoke about her from pride and prejudice, but did not give her advice or change her. –And that people is L.O.V.E 🙂

5. And if someone came along who acted exactly like Mr. Darcy but was broke, neither Lizzie Bennett nor the modern woman would turn him down. But the fact that you could (for Jane Austen herself made it!) be married to the son of a wealthy, well-established family and the master of the great estate of Pemberley –a palace?Image

(How would you like to see a sunrise in the fields such as the one in the end of the 2005 movie?) Well, it’s no wonder Darcy is fiction.. And no wonder I’m still obsessed. 😀

6. And do you have any idea how many books there are about Mr. Darcy? o.O –along with it’s many parodies (including Pride and Prejudice and Zombies) but also Me and Mr. DarcyMr. Darcy’s Diary, A Wife for Mr. DarcyMr. Darcy Takes a Wife, The Trouble with Mr. Darcy, In the Arms of Mr. Darcy, Only Mr. Darcy Will Do, To Have His Cake (And Eat it Too): Mr. Darcy’s Tale, What He Would Not Do – Mr. Darcy’s Tale Continues, The Truth About Mr. Darcy, Loving Mr. Darcy – Tales Beyond Pemberley, My Dearest Mr. Darcy, Mr. Darcy’s Obession, The Perfect Bride for Mr. Darcy, Mr. Fitzwilliam Darcy: The Last Man in the World, To Conquer Mr. Darcy, Mr. Darcy Broke My Heart, Seducing Mr. Darcy, Mr. and Mrs. Fitzwilliam Darcy: Two Shall Become One, Mr. Darcy’s Secret, What Would Mr. Darcy Do?, Mr. Darcy Vampyre, A Weekend with Mr. Darcy, Mr. Darcy’s Daughter….etc. There are so many that I could just probably tuck myself  in bed for a few months and do nothing but read ( READ o.O ) books–starring Mr. Darcy.

Bridget Jones’s Diary, is little more than a modern reworking and love letter to Darcy, though this time; Mark Darcy (Colin Firth).


It was, in fact, the movie/book that made me realize that this Darcy obsession existed.

7. Two centuries on, Fitzwilliam Darcy is still the man that women “definitely would”. He may come in forms of Charlotte Brontë’s Mr Rochester, Emily Brontë’s Heathcliffe or EL James’ Christian Grey but they’re still always Darcy in disguise, a little version of Austen’s classic original hero…

So that’s it. Generous and kind hearted, who can protect, provide and listen, and who is prepared to change– that’s what Darcy stands for and if you think about it, he’s really not too far removed from the men we know and love… 🙂

Finding that perfect moment.. Again at Sunset..


While the last of day’s light pours itself on earth touching the ocean with its magical warmth, night waits with baited breath lingering above in the blue of the sky…Image

I couldn’t think of any words befitting this photo.. Some photos can make one so poetic..haha.. Specially when at that perfect moment.. Speaking of “perfect moments”– how do you find that perfect moment by the way?..Is it the sunset.. the colors.. or the perfect composition of nature that makes a perfect moment?.. Well I think, one thing I always do when I go out with a camera is to capture something I can remember… Something memorable.. ( And I salute every Photographers! I learned that taking pictures specially at moments like this one was not easy. I even did crazy stunts just to have that artistic photography– I think 😉 ). Image

But I’m not really sure I got the perfect shot, but I had fun in the process and I believe that applying the things I’ve learned, including moving around like crazy and shooting after the sun is gone, led to a memorable shot… Anyways, my goal was not a perfect shot…but a shot I could remember.



Remember my first post, me in it– that mermaid girl drama pose? The person responsible for that is my dearest cousin Rho, who at that time was also practicing her craft in photography.. Well I Couldn’t just take pictures there without including her in it. BTW the girl with the scarf headdress is her..  😉 Image

This photos were taken last year at our family resort “Alkumaim Beach Resort” in Malapatan, Sarangani Province. 

When the sun is about to set and things are oh so magical…

I’ve always wanted to write my own blog, but for lack of time and courage, I never did… until now… This week I decided to start my blog, and found myself with a quite interesting challenge… what to write about on my first blog post? hmmmn..


I’m sure this first blog post of mine will be full of mistakes..and to be honest I’m terrified of writing… But I really want to have a blog, so hey, if I don’t start writing, I’ll never get better.. right?..Since this a first, I want something special and close to me. And since I’m into photography nowadays–what will be good to post than, my own photography 😉 and yeah that girl at the bottom photo is moi 😀 the scene practically took my breath away.. and I couldn’t let it go without me in it..ImageImage

( P.S. Photos taken at Alkumaim Beach Resort ).